The biggest learning curve ever since graduating has surely been a case of revamping to this new phase of life.
It took me a while to get out of the school headspace, there were times in the following year that i would be panicking about picking modules or forgetting to submit an assignment 😭
What I have taken from this experience is to grab everything with both hands and have fun. Consider this stagnant stage the pree’s to the night out✨
Everyone has their own path and so you need not to look in anyone else's. I'm here to remind you, you're not alone and you will do well.
Change is everywhere and in everything, by waiting your turn you'll come to realise the very thing you wanted to work out doesn't align with you any more.
Acclimating to life at home again
I know for many and myself that moving back home after spending the past few years away, whether that city wise or accommodation is TOUGH.
Cramming back into our small rooms that many call childhood bedrooms, being in a smaller space whilst cramming the extra assets from university life. And being around family again. It's not easy, there are families that do and don’t get along which can make our circumstances even more difficult.
I learnt that being the bigger person is not easy but brings you peace.
It can be very daunting to the point where negative vibrations from those situations start to manifest or project onto you.
The positive of being back home is being able to save, being grateful that I can have a place to stay whilst I prepare myself. I realised that situations change, I was dedicated to what mine would too.
Hectic living post university/college
Moving back home, friends moving away, you leave uni friends behind, people have different schedules due to different lifestyles and jobs. This gets really exhausting and sometimes impossible. However, I finally understand what the adults meant!
It hurts too, not being able to always meet up with friends but in a way I understand, As you become more of an adults there's more you need to be aware of such as finance. Whilst this shouldn't be the problem, this is the world we live in today. At the end of the day, the main point is that having that mutual understanding of what's around of today is very important.
Everyone following their own true paths and changing directions makes it hard to keep friendships but at the same time, i realised it is a blessing in some ways as it gets rid of people who you may not want to continue the friendship with.
Although it can feel lonely sometimes, once I realised that being in a situation like this is completely normal, I was able to cope with it more easily. There were so many times I would break down because I was alone and couldn't relate. The cool thing I took away is even though physically I was alone, finding myself in friendship issues which is also VERY normal after graduating, virtually I had that support and it was enough to boost me to where i am today.
Moments of stagnation, rejection and setbacks
To put it simply, you will come to learn that rejection and disappointment are what comes along with being a graduate. You’ll come to realise you don't have that experience in where you want to go for the time being and that is frustrating, heart wrenching.
After I graduated I experienced so many rejection from LinkedIn. Many jobs rejected me even though they claimed to be “entry-level”. Thoughts of this being impossible were present. Not only was I confused, I was really going to give up honestly!
But I am dedicated to consistency with myself and achieving my goals and in order to change my life around. This is the big girl era! The only person blocking you is yourself and so small moves are the way. Getting clear on what you want and celebrating those small victories as you move slowly is the greatest feeling.
The problem is, we expect things to happen too fast just like everything else around us in the rat race. We expect things to just fall in place, when that's not the reality for everything and often this makes us feel angry and frustrated that we can't get what we want.
Comparison traps
The world is run by influence, social media, organisations and brands, influencers. It's easy to compare yourself to the people and environment around you and fall short of yourself. Social media doesn't help, having a clear awareness of this is crucial.
We see people moving out, securing amazing jobs, travelling, having families. Social media is all smiles and there's no point in comparing yourself. Why compare your journey to someone else's?
Spend time away from the comparison and get clear with yourself, goals and values.
Social media has this trick of making us feel as though we need to have everything figured out by the time we graduate or turn 25, this has manifested into us as we grow up. I remember expecting to have my dream car, Audi A3 by 24. 😭Looking back this isn't something i truly want in my life right now, it's not the priority.
I'm here to remind you that it is okay love, I’m with you👭
Student status, hello adulting.
Losing this title brings a lot of pressure and expectation to figure out what’s next. You feel like you need to rediscover your identity with a job title or a plan. you may find yourself doing something different than your actual line of work. But this can benefit your future.
Student benefits, discounts will be missed! I loved using my discounts and hope you make full use of yours!
If I could tell those who will be graduating, to not push yourself too hard, you will need this time to think and along the way you will figure out so much more about yourself. Most often you wouldn't expect what will come! Hold tight! You’re actively improving your future without the duty of trying to make it as an adult in the real world.
Here are a few useful tips on how to adapt to life after graduation:💁🏽
Take time out to travel. *if you can*
Enrol in some independent study
Enrol to an online course for skill development
Find an internship or a work placement
Attend alumni events.
Take classes specialising in your hobby
Saving is important, but only what you need
Spend time out of home, long walks, markets
Final thoughts
Give yourself the credit for what you’ve achieved these past years and remember to celebrate small wins along the way. This stage in life is tough but it's also important to enjoy yourself at this time too. Career break, gap year, it’s yours now, quit comparing yourself to social media, the instagram, pinterest feed.
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