Why It’s About Time You Start Focusing On Youself, Journey, Needs and Happiness.

There's something about how confident people hold themselves that sets them apart from others. In this sense, they focus on themselves as much as they do for others. For so many reasons you should be doing this therefore, let’s get into it.

 

Honestly, truly it's the audacity of “focusing on yourself is selfish” for me, it sends a harsh shiver down my back. If you have friends, family who portray this attitude, I think you should consider who you have in your surroundings 👀

From my experience and from what I've humbly heard from others, at the end of every one of those conversations the thought that replayed most was “ just focus on yourself, do you, do better for you”. For so many reasons you should be doing this therefore.

Keeping negative people/forces away from your divine energy.

Not everyone has nice, kind intentions. In short the human nature cycle varies and can be complicated, however that doesn't mean you should have to accept it, put up with it.

Not everyone is meant to enjoy the fruits of your presence 😏

Key giveaways that someone isn't a good person.

If all their exes are crazy, they're crazy. No accountability.

They never apologise.

When you express a boundary, they try to guilt trip you, pressure you, or threaten you to try and force you to do things you don’t want to do.

treating you differently in public vs how they treat you privately. These can both go either way.

How someone treats another person based on their job title

When telling you about issues in their life and everything is everyone else’s fault. No accountability.

Everything is always about them. Everything. Even if you're going through something difficult, suddenly they've been through the same thing, but worse.

Treating people well only if they can benefit from them in some way…and they'll treat you like shit too if you ever stop being of use to them.

Situations in which you live with the person is even more of a hassle, the situations vary for each person. Focusing on yourself in that one space you have around you, making it our own and feeling safe, this helps keep that distance needed in order for you to de-stress yourself and focus on yourself.

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Keeping your answers simple and neutral.

Prevent exposure to private life especially social media.

Limit face-to-face interaction

Be joyful to the point that anything they do cannot shift your vibe.
Deep breaths

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How to focus solely on yourself : and not others.

Focusing on yourself isn't selfish. It's an act of self-love and it is important that actually listen to yourself in order to discover what it is you want…ヅ

 

If you don't have a specific goal in mind or find that you're really struggling, taking care of yourself in a basic way is a great start to focusing solely on yourself. That counts as hair care, skin care, ordering your favourite korean dish whilst doing face masks, bingeing HunterXHunter…

 

In order to work on yourself, especially if you're busy or have a tendency to put others first, you must practise assertiveness. Ways to do this include learning to say no, allowing certain conditions in which you will do something for others, and determining happenings in which you won't.

 

Focusing on yourself doesn't mean sitting around disregarding everything else. Therefore it’s a brilliant idea to actively do things just for you, indulge in our passions and interests.

 

Avoid idleness and false self-care. I must say I was at one point guilty of this. I was one of those that took my emotions and ego to retail therapy. These things don't help you focus on yourself in a high-yielding way. They're simply more ways of ignoring the inner needs of our emotional selves.

What does it mean to focus on yourself?  What does focusing on yourself do?

It means, putting me first *cookie from power*,taking that dance class you've been pushing back on,learning a new skill for a career change, more DIY’s & becoming independent, etc.

 

How will this benefit my life in 2, 5, 10 years?

What type of people do I see myself surrounded by?

 

Focusing on yourself means you take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health properly. It’s been clinically proven to reduce stress, minimise frustration, eliminate anxiety & depression

 

Focusing on yourself allows you to develop the confidence you need within yourself,enables you to become significantly clear minded in what you want out of life. Enjoying and taking pride in those daily habits that allow you to be more gentle will sure do a whole lot.

Self-care plan to get you going! 💋

 

 

How do I focus on myself at work?

Set boundaries around your time, focus on those tasks that are critical, Reduce the number of meetings as possible, Practise active listening, do only what you are paid to do and finally turn off work at the end of the day. “Tap in and tap out” 💁

As “friendly” and “family” orientated many workplaces preach to be, it's beneficial to keep in mind that your colleagues are not your friends, not everyone is kind, has friendly intentions. You don’t need the stress of office gossip, toxic stress so save your time. It’ll be worth it.❤️

  

Final thoughts 🗣

Just as above is below, we must find that intersection with balance, and focus on things that truly bring us plenty of joy and gratification. Taking care of ourselves improves our relationships with work as well as others, as it improves our widespread happiness and attainment.

How we assert ourselves in our passions, hobbies, creativity, exercise, and even socialising and helping others (on our terms) are all great ways to truly focus on ourselves in a principle and constructive way.

I hope this article inspired you incorporate constructive daily habits along your journey.

If there was anything I missed or should be aware of, dhesitatestate to leave your thoughts too!